Needs to be said: young girls. I see you watching the cool kids. you know the ones with the cute clothes that their rich daddies bought, hanging out all night (because who needs to actually work a job when you don’t have to pay the rent on the house you throw those house parties at.) I see those cool kids with their impossibly perfect seflies, and magazine editorials and smoldering chicness. I see them too. Deep inside our hearts, we kinda wish we were the cool kids, right?
Well, please stop chasing this life. I’ve never lived it and I can’t decide whether I write this from insane jealousy or thankfulness, but please be more than this. There has got to be more than being “cool” and having the “in” clothes and being invited to the cool parties. There is more then being “seen” because maybe you feel invisible, but the people who see you…probably matter a whole lot more. There is much more to life then being a bad friend and sleeping with all your friends and their friends. There is more than letting your way be paved by a famous dad or a lucky someone else. There is more than being “cool.”
Go. Now. Make your own path. I promise that you might not get the most followers, or the most press, or the most buzz but a life full of hard work, a life filled with things you bought yourself with your hard earned money, and life full of friends who would never backstab you, a party full of people who know you the best and love you the most is so much better than all that other stuff. Being a complete nerd and being really excited about everything leads to a world where you got to be really excited about everything. Being excited about things rules.
Don’t worry about being a cool kid, instead try to focus on being a nice kid. Be a good friend. Be a hard worker. Be a thoughtful lover. Be a good daughter. Be a good human. Focus on your dreams, and filling all your days with the best life you can. Don't worry about being cool, when you should be worrying about being magical, smart, successful, driven, loyal, trustworthy, focused, loved, loving, polite and all the other hundred things more important than being cool.
hey, also....i love you.
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